Pisces Man Dedicated and Elusive

by RL

I have some observations about Pisces men that seem to match what I have read here so far: Evasive, yes, they can be, but when they come to you, it's positively incredible the connection that's there. Emotion, emotion, emotion. And spontaneity. And recklessness. And genius. And love. And tenderness. And patience. And compassion. And ...wait, I don't understand your behavior, can you please explain it to me? Vibes? Crap, where's my Intellect/Vibe dictionary...?

As an Aquarius woman, I realize that it's difficult for me to show my emotions, but I have sort of broken through that by reminding myself that emotion is Pisces' first language and am attempting to learn it. I started writing how I felt, for starters. I didn't know how far heartfelt words would go with you Fish, nor how meaningful my quirky and unique gifts could be (I was just speaking in my OWN language with that), but I feel more often than not that my man has fallen largely due to these gestures. I even cried in front of him a couple of weeks ago! Cried! Me! I have learned in large part, at least so far, to speak his language. The only problem I face now is to see if he will be willing to learn MINE. As a water-bearer, I want to know why.

I have been dating a Pisces man seriously for a couple of months, and in that time we have both been intimate (fortunately both of us attach heavy emotional meaning to the act and don't engage in it frequently or lightly, so there is more safety than there coule be if sex were casual) and he has also asked for space, though he has come back at the end of it (actually, he asked for a week of space and then called me the next day... what gives??).

So do I take him seriously when he says "I love you" (a phrase he says he doesn't offer unless there's dedication attached to it) and tell myself he'll return after the space, or what? It's really difficult to say whether the relationship is really headed in a permenant direction after so little time (though he knows I want it to be and has reciprocated the same desire - in words, mind you), but I do feel that if we can both work on commuicating in a way that the other understands, then things will work out for the best.

Pisces men, please answer me this:

If you declare yourself to a woman, do you mean it? And if you mean it, does that nullify the petrifying fear I feel that you'll disappear forever when you're rude one day or ask for space the other?

The most consistent feeling over the months with my Pisces man has been affectionate, dedicated and tender, and I am thinking that perhaps these deviations are part of your famous mood swings, so I am not quite ready to dismiss you as too much work. Geez, aren't we ALL too much work sometimes? But, I am a fixed sign, less moody and more logical than you Fish are. The chamelion changeability of you has me quite confused.

So, my last question is, is it worth it? Some days I feel like I'm soaring, others I feel like I'm sinking. More soaring than sinking, over the months, but does it ever level out? And is the risk too great when I (confident and leading Aquarius that I am) have a day where I need you to be there for me??

Last note: I asked my Pisces man to write me a letter telling me how he felt about me. He seemed genuinely interested in winning my heart, so I told him that this, above much else, was a way to do it. That was two months ago. He hasn't written it yet, though I have been patient with him and gently reminded him that I need something concrete to hold onto when he disappears so I don't try to chase him down - I want to just let him do his thing. While all other affection and exclusivity has been present, this letter hasn't. Am I to take this personally, or issue an ultimatim? It's not so much the letter as a need I have expressed that shouldn't take too much out of someone (I would think, but I could be wrong) so leaving it unfulfilled leads me to wonder if I am the one he leans on all the time, or can I have a moment where HE is the stable one and I am leaning?

All in all, it is a wild ride, but not an unfulfilling one. I have never had so much fun, nor wanted to tear my hair out so much in my life.

Thank you for listening.

BTW: Man: Pisces w/ Virgo rising
Woman: Aquarius w/ Libra rising