Is my Taurus man being selfish?

by scorpiogirl

I am a Scorpio girl, early 20s. Have known my Taurus for 3 years now first met at university. Both of us are very like our signs. We only started seeing each other romantically over the past few months, it just sort of developed as we have always been affectionate towards each other. Prior we have always been close as friends, both been in other relationships.

He told me on our first date that he was in love with me and wants to be with me for the long run, that I am his future idea of his love. We spoke of everything, he got quite emotional about it. But we happened as a couple very quickly and he freaked out, he said he has to figure out his problems before us as an item could happen, because he could never hurt me. (he has cheated and had depression in the past, and out of a big breakup halfway through this year). So we have cooled it since (his call) but he told me last week he missed me, will see him soon to figure it out.

He knows not to say this unless we commit properly so was surprised he brought it up. We have also not slept together, he said he wanted it to be right and at the right time. He has a past of sleeping around, so it was significant for him to not take advantage of me I think.
What do people think? He is very much a Taurus, very stubborn, very sensual, very into stability and not big changes. We compliment eachother perfectly though, he brings me down to earth and I lift him emotionally. But we also butt heads on important decisions as I am very deep emotionally and he is very practical. But when we work we work in perfect unity. I feel he sees me as his idea of his ideal wife but isn't sure if he is ready for such commitment (even though that would not happen for a long time.)

Should I wait for him to sort himself out? Or should I not stick around for this bull to finally make up his mind to grow up? He is on the cusp of either trying to be a man or not caring and staying a mid 20s bachelor with no responsibility. Is this just too selfish to deal with?

Your help would be greatly appreciated!