Help my aries man has me confused!

by renee
(springfield, illinois, usa)

I’m a cancer girl with an aries moon and cancer rising and Oh My God I think I’ve just met the most confusing aries guy ever. Ok my aries guy (leo moon, cancer rising) is seriously playing mind games with me and I don’t know what to do =( i’ve been ignoring him, and letting him come to me, and chase me. Recently he’ll text me or call me when he’s ready to, ask me what I'm doing or if I'm busy, and I'll tell him yes I'm busy doing this or that…..and I only do this because now it just seems like he’ll just text or call me whenever he wants sex and I don’t like that, should I tell him how I feel about that?…. He does say that we’re just talking to each other (not yet at the boyfriend girlfriend stage) and on occasions he calls me his girl or his babe and it confuses me. I don’t know if we are together or not? Does he want me or not? Sometimes he makes me feel like he wants me and then sometimes he makes me feel like he doesn’t… I’m thinking maybe I should just keep ignoring him and giving him the run around whenever he asks me if I'm busy or if I want to come over. I remember when we first started hanging out he kept trying to kiss me and I kept pulling away and he asked me what is wrong and I told him I didn’t know him that well. There have been 2 occasions where I just went off on him in a text telling him that I don’t want to be treated like I'm a whore and that if he just wants sex from me then we may as well not talk to each other because that’s not what I want, and confronting him about me hearing about him messing around with other girls and how I felt about that and him not telling me he was still seeing his ex (now they're not talking anymore officially) and he never responded back to me. Why doesn’t he respond to me? But when he sees me the next day he acts as if nothing happened, I don’t get it!!! After sending him those texts confronting him I started to distance myself from him and that’s when he grew concerned about me asking me what’s wrong with me? Why am I not talking to him? Asking me why am I acting so strange? And I just wanted to smack him across the forehead like are you really asking me these questions? Like you don’t know what’s wrong with me? I reeeaaaallllyyyy like him sooo much almost to the point of loving him but I don’t know what to do I want to stick with him I don’t want to give up on him. Ugh I'm soooo confused and don’t know what to do =( but I'm going to stick with him and see how this goes.
By the way aries men are supposed to be upfront, tell it like it is and straightforward people. Well this aries guy I'm dealing with is far from straightforward only when it comes to sex but he is a little shy like he’s scared to talk to me at times,(maybe it’s his cancer rising) sometimes I have to initiate conversation first to at least get a word out of him and I'm a shy and quiet girl myself but the silence and non talking was irritating me I just had to say or do something to start conversation. I like to play around and play fight and it seems like he doesn’t I like to play around and have fun me and my ex virgo used to play around all the time and wrestle lol (kinda unusual with me being a cancer girl I guess but maybe it’s my aries moon) maybe it’s because he’s serious about me but isn’t sure?!?!? Anywho, he’s so outgoing, confident and everyone loves him and knows him he’s so popular to everyone which makes me think he would be straightforward with me I'm straightforward and I'll tell it like it is and I won’t sugar coat anything. sometimes I just want him to tell me he doesn’t like me or does like so I would know if I should move on or not.
The only reason why I'm sticking with him is that maybe underneath it all he’s very soft on the inside and I want to bring out his soft side I just don’t know how to, maybe he’s insecure about something and doesn’t want to show it I wish he would tell me, I don’t know what to do, what should I do to bring out his soft side???