First contact with a Cancer

What would be the best things to say in a first time letter to a cancer that you want to spend the rest of your life with?

Comments for First contact with a Cancer

Click here to add your own comments

first contac
by: Anonymous

I'm a cancer and its hard to give you advice about that one unless i have an idea of what your story is about.

1st contact with cancer
by: Anonymous

my story is interesting but to complex. i was just looking for some kind of icebreaker letter to peak her interest. she made initial contact and i responded but she never wrote back. that was 2 years ago. i got to excited and communicated badly i think which is common for me. i know we are meant to be together but am a bad comunicator on anything other than a deep level, i either spill my guts to much or try to sell myself which seems phony. i'm almost terrified to say anything at this point.she's the woman of my dreams.

first contact responds
by: Anonymous

Ok its still hard to tell you what to do i need more of what went on so i know why she wont answer you back. By the way what is your sign?

1st contact with a cancer
by: Anonymous

ok ya got me, i'll try. my mother was a cancer she was incredibly beautiful and crazy as can be. she couldn't handle her emotions and would abuse her children (all 9 of em, severely physically and emotionally)to a degree that most people refuse to believe. she was especially hardest on me for some reason, (i always felt it was cause i was like my dad) she is responcible for killing my dad (a wonderful man that i loved more than i can express)we all went through hell for quite some time after that. through all this i still loved her and tried to help always i never even so much as said a bad word to her. she finally re-married a very rich man (which is all she talked about and desired) and got some help. she tried to make up to me what she had done all those years and spoiled me rotten, the relationship was healed eventually. she said on my wedding day that she felt like she was losing her best buddy. we were always close even through the abuse. the emotional complexities of all this are baffling even to most shrinks and to me to. i am spiritually gifted and have much esoteric knowledge and insight that no-one seems to understand other than a good psychic.i know for sure (through certain coincedences and other ways) but don't know how to explain that this woman was sent to me to heal the wounds and make my life an incredible experience, i knew it the moment i saw her and thats what makes communication so difficult for me. i am a very sensitive highly intuitive taurus as well as a 30/3 (emotional expression w/ inner gifts) i can be a wonderful communicator except in relationships with women.

first contact responds
by: Anonymous

ok so then you are married a cancer woman. Ok wait so are you trying to have first contact with your mom. im like really confused. Or did you meet a woman that is a cancer. Im still not clear in what or who your talking about???

1st. contact cancer
by: Anonymous

i married a leo in 1987, divorced her in 1999 and have been single since then. my cancer mother raised me. a cancer woman saw my profile and wrote me about 2 years ago, i responded back but made a bad 1st impression, she never wrote back and probably doesn't even remember me. this cancer woman showed up again 2 years later through a strange coincedence. i feel i'm being given a 2nd chance by god to know her but i will need to make 1st contact this time and don't know what to say in order to break the ice.

Sign Please...
by: Anonymous in NYC

What is your sign? are you sure this attraction that you have towards this cancer woman is not a result of some unresolved issues you may have with your Cancer mother. Honestly, I seem to know more about this Cancer than this girl.

1st contact
by: Anonymous

i'm taurus and yes i am sure this does have to do with unresolved issues with my mother. i believe this cancer woman has shown up again for a sort of karmic balance and healing for me.

1st contact
by: Anonymous

well it all depends on what you told this womaan for her to just not answer you back. If you were to forward with her she might of gotten scared because us cancerians we like to take it slow and get to know the person before we decide we want to take the relationship serious.

1st contact
by: Anonymous

yes! i think your right. so now that it is 2 years later, i can start over, right? so how do i approach in the correct manner?

first contact
by: Anonymous

If its been that long and she never has contacted you it sounds to me like she may not be interested. Im not sure what you told her but it may have turned her off.

Do this
by: Anonymous

Just be friendly in a non creepy way . Like, hi I saw your profile and I'd like to chat with you. Don't say anything about your mom or that you contacted her before. Talk briefly abt yourself without being cocky. And tell her you'll be looking to hearing from her soon. And do not do not do not send a secod email, be patient and wait until she responds.

need help with cancer
by: Anonymous

I am a virgo and there is a cancer man that caught my eye. I am very reserved and have not told any one (Including him) that i have strong feelings for him. so if you are a cancer please give me some advise.

Need to know what she thinks
by: Anonymous

I'm a Taurus. Recently I met a cancer girl in college. I felt madly in love with her. But she is very shy, and I as a Taurus am also shy and therefore we haven't had much interaction. But one night during a school dance I asked her to dance with me even though we really didn't know each other. It wasn't awkward in the sense that either of us could really keep up the conversation, actually we had a pretty good talk, but she didn't talk much, not as if she turned me down, but I could tell she was just being shy. After that we haven't had much interaction besides saying hi to each other. I know that what I did was pretty bold.But I would like some advice (specially from Cancer ladies) to know what she thinks about me, basically just based on that dance and our lack of much interaction afterwards. Lets say that looks are irrelevant since I'm pretty confident about my looks and my body. Please let me have an idea of what she thinks, and also what should I do?

Need to know
by: Anonymous

I'm a cancer woman and yes your right she is shy and we normally don't make the first move we like for the man to make the first move. We are a bit old fashioned. You will never know she likes you because she is going to wait until you let her know how you feel about her. We like the man to chase after us we dont like to be the one chasing. So if you like this woman you need to continue being the one to make the first moves until she feels comfortable with you. Also we dont usually trust easily it takes us awhile to trust someone.

Need to Know
by: Anonymous

So, should I tell her how I feel about her? Wont' she go back into her "shell"? How would she react if I told her how I fell about her during a first date?

need to know
by: Anonymous

If you have an idea that she likes you i would say go for it. Take a chance and tell her how you feel. If you dont you'll never know if something came out of it.

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Cancer seduction.

Are we compatible?

Find out what astrology has to say about your unique partner and relationship beyond just sun signs.

Astrology and soulmates

How to know if you're with your soulmate. The most common features of soulmate relationships.

Astrology and seduction

By understanding someone and how they view things it's easy to make yourself more attractive to them.

Online relationships

Explore hidden factors such as physical attraction so you can see the whole picture of your relationship.

Relationship advice

Personal relationship advice based on your natal and composite charts. 21 years of experience solving real problems for real couples.

New relationships

Astrology can let you learn more about someone you recently met. It's the most powerful tool I've found to predict the future of a relationship.

Get your ex back

Avoid arguments before they start and turn your differences into strengths. It's never too late to begin again.

Considering an affair

For the first time in years you feel alive. My unbiased and anonymous analysis takes the gamble out of deciding what to do.

Relationship ebooks

From naughty to nice, my reviews of ebooks on dating, love, sex and more.

Astrology compatibility

How does it work? How accurate is it? Why are there 12 signs? An introduction to synastry and compatible astrology.