Fell For A Taurus/Aries Cusp Girl, What To Do?

by Robert
(Michigan)

I'm a Pisces guy, I recently moved to a small town and met a totaly BEAUTIFUL (inside and out) girl who I later found out was an Aries/Taurus cusp. She's very reserved, it took months for her to even talk about ANYTHING personal and she still refuses to show most of her feelings. We aren't close at all, so I don't blame her.

I recently told her that I was interested in her but I severely underplayed it expecting rejection. As far as she's concerned I think she's a nice/gorgeous person mildly. In my mind she's like an angel.

When I told her she was really nice about it, pretty much gave me the, you're nice but there's nothing there speech. After that (and a little bit before) I tried desperatly to get over her. Months at a time I tried to find something wrong with her so I could just drop it. I went back to one of my exs so that I could stop thinking about her, I didn't even realize how I was using her, so that just isn't an option again.

I want to tell her how amazing she is but I think it would be very selfish of me when she already has so much on her mind. I don't want to cause anymore drama, but I want her to know, and I still somewhere hope (but no better) that she'll understand.

I don't know what to do anymore. I haven't even tried to charm/flirt/seduce her. She's an amazing friend and I don't want to ruin that. Not to mention that I'm constantly wondering if I'm after her just for her looks lately.

I feel madly in love with her. It takes everything in me not to become a stalker.

I pretty much need help with two things.
A: Do I just keep trying to get over her?
B: If not how can I win her over, she's so paranoid about flirting, so much more amazing than me in every way, and so against dating at this point.

I've tried just getting close, to be friends, so I could know if I really like her, so I could have a chance if I did, but she's just not letting me in.
-Thanks in advance.

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Pisces wanting to date Taurus with aries cusp
by: kathryn

Hi, I am a taurus woman with an aries cusp. My advice to you would be to be friend her first. Become a really nice and devoted friend, some she can talk to and confide in with no strings attached. You will grow on her and the decision will be hers and not yours. We tend to like it better that way. Good luck.

Friends First
by: Anonymous Taurus

I'm a Taurus woman. I will have to agree with Kathryn. I am also on the Aries cusp. Getting to know her will be better for you. If she senses that you're only after her for her looks, she will NEVER take you seriously. If she senses that you're pushing her into a commitment without getting to know her better, she will NEVER pursue you.

Tell her what you admire about her (We're always checking for any signs of genuine interest, we're distrustful by nature).

be honest with yourself
by: Anonymous

im an aries/taurus cusp girl.Do you want the honest truth or are you wearing rose-tinted glasses?The truth is shes probably not interested (sorry for the aries/taurus bluntness but there you go..)She wont open up because she does not love you.why are you setting yourself up to be hurt?I have a relationship with a pisces and his sincerity is sweet but its hugely overwhelming and makes me want to take cover and run.i know theres nothing more painful than being in love with someone who doesnt love you but if she hasnt shown any interest yet i doubt she ever will..

Form a Foundation
by: Anonymous

Exactly agree with the previous two answers! I'm a Taurus/Aries Cusp as well and what's been mentioned is exactly what I've been thinking/deliberating with this Aries guy! Can't tell if he's has a genuine interest in me or if he just wants attention! I personally wouldn't want a guy running after me if he doesn't even know me--doesn't make sense to invest myself with him. I want someone who really wants me for who I really am. So take time getting to know her better and she'll want to get to know you! Be friends and have great conversations together! She'll love it and you'll definitely be considered! She'll greatly appreciate it!

Form a Foundation
by: Anonymous

Exactly agree with the previous two answers! I'm a Taurus/Aries Cusp as well and what's been mentioned is exactly what I've been thinking/deliberating with this Aries guy! Can't tell if he's has a genuine interest in me or if he just wants attention! I personally wouldn't want a guy running after me if he doesn't even know me--doesn't make sense to invest myself with him. I want someone who really wants me for who I really am. So take time getting to know her better and she'll want to get to know you! Be friends and have great conversations together! She'll love it and you'll definitely be considered! She'll greatly appreciate it!

Yeah..
by: Anonymous

I don't want to be the buzzkill here, but... For me, personally, if I don't feel an immediate attraction towards you then that's never going to change. Once we're friends then that's how it's going to stay. If she's not feeling the same way you are then it'd probably be best for you to just stay away from her for at least a little bit. I, personally again, don't feel comfortable being around someone who I know has feelings for me when I don't feel the same way. I don't know about the other Aries - Taurus cusps. Hopefully I'm wrong and you guys end up together and get married and all that. Good luck!

i am an aries/taurus cusp
by: Anonymous

Pay attention to details.
Surprise her to prove that you've been paying attention to details.
Ask what her favorite chocolate/candy is...
then invite her to a movie...that can be perceived as friendly.....
bring her favorite chocolate/candy in your pocket.
ask her many many questions.

pisces are intuitive....get her talking about herself and she'll adore your creative nature.

I have the same situation dude!
by: Andy

I'm a pisces male and I also like an aries taurus girl, I feel your situation man haha! I talked to her and my friend told her I like her, but she's not that easy, she does not fall for instant attraction, she wants to get to know me and stuff.

agree
by: Anonymous

I to, agree with Kathryn. I am a taurus/aries cusp as well. Devote some time to her more. Be there for her unconditionally, and evetually you will grow on her like they said. It wI'll be a little hard to handle for aWhile,but it's worth it when she let's you in!

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