Dating the Aquarius woman

by Gary
(IA, U.S.A.)

I've had experience with dating an Aquarian woman, but it was an up-and-down experience, for sure. My impression is that she is definitely driven for success, loves intellectual stimulation, and is very up-front with what she wants. Emotionally, she is a disaster area. My family found her detached, competent, but not warm. Shallow and unable to see the big picture where relationships are concerned, but on the ball regarding work and career.

She loves her family more than anything and regards her parents with extremely high regard. She has had some problems with her two sisters, however; there seemed to be friction there. Has few friends, but has a strong bond with them. She accepts there faults and foibles with good cheer.

This is a difficult woman to get to know. Admitted to me a lack of self-awareness, lack of emotionality when it is required or needed. She is absolutely lousy in bed, refusing to give of herself enough. But worst of all, disloyal and prone to betrayal if a better offer of a good time is available elsewhere. This particular Aquarius forced me to break off our relationship after changing an arranged meeting (we lived far apart from each other) with each other, not once but twice. She continued to follow me around online and cajoled my friend to get information about me. Sent me a holiday card which I never read, and for many years did not hear any more about her. When I chanced on meeting up again, the woman was married with children. Emotionally she remained the same inscrutable person I knew.

The Aquarius woman that I knew in general was someone that I wish I had kept as a friend. She was, as a lover, too selfish, too inward, and too disloyal to maintain a long-lasting love life. When she wished to change careers (a thing she still does to this day) I made the mistake of offering advice to not throw her original career away since she just started it, proposing more patience; she took my head off for my effrontery! I didn't feel particularly wanted, and I always felt that I would always take a back seat to her family and friends. A part of me still loves her dearly, and I miss our long conversations, but she is hard to read, harder still to know on an emotional level. I don't know how her husband does it!