Cancer man

Complete guide to love, sex and relationships

Cancer man personality traits and characteristics

Passionate, volatile and exciting the Cancer man has an emotional strength and vulnerability which many find to be highly attractive and uniquely sexy. Deeply caring and sympathetic lovers they will do anything for a partner whom they're in love with.

Highly intuitive, he has a natural talent for nurturing, often knowing exactly how to make his partner feel comfortable and secure. Loving, gentle, intimate and understanding he is kind hearted but not soft, and will often know exactly what you're feeling and how best to support you emotionally.

Romantic and devoted, he takes relationships and his partner seriously, and once settled with a mate he enjoys the home and everything associated with it. Cancer men are also often exceptionally friendly and love to help others and feel needed. That man at your office who offers hugs when you're feeling down is probably a Cancer... (as a side note, this can be construed as flirting, often where it isn't intended)

If you're able to pick up on other peoples emotions this is a wonderful, caring and warm sign, and everything you've read about them being nurturing and supportive is true. Possibly the most perfect partner you could wish for. If you aren't sensitive enough, or can't be bothered to nurture him at appropriate times, then your perfect Cancer lover may become increasingly distant and argumentative as your tally of neglect grows.

Due to the above in the long term this is an all or nothing man. He often does better with a strong but caring partner, rather than an ultra-sensitive one. This is a man who sometimes needs a partner to tell him to shut up and just kiss him. Debating, analyzing, justifying moods, behavior etc may get the job done eventually, but it's very counter productive.

Cancer man questions

What are Cancer men like in bed?

In line with the comments on shifting moods, sex can be highly variable and dynamic. If you're in-tune with him this can make for a fantastic range of lovemaking styles, though often with an underlying romantic current and flavor. A skilled partner can use that emotional intensity to great advantage. An overly lazy or selfish partner may find it not so appealing.

Are Cancer men kinky?

This is always a hard question to answer, as one person's idea of kinky can be very different to someone else's. Individuals also vary a lot, so this is a bad area to generalize in. All things being equal though, Cancer men are dependent on their mood. At times they can be, and at times they don't want to be. There is a strong argument that it's a good thing. Predictable partners get boring much faster. On the other hand if you like to reach for the candle wax at 8pm every Tuesday... sometimes you are going to be out of luck.

What's it like dating a Cancer man?

Cancer is an unpredictable sign, with a little of everything at different times. This can make them far more exciting and unpredictable lovers than the standard nurturing image would portray. If you enjoy nurturing your partner it's a win:win. If you're the type who often neglects a partner it's a lose:lose.

Cancer is a highly sensitive and intuitive sign, always aware of the needs and feelings of others. Unless they're with an equally intuitive and sensitive lover however they need to be very communicative and open (which they typically aren't) or there's a danger of them feeling that others can understand them, but simply choose not to care.

This situation gets rapidly compounded, because Cancer doesn't like confrontation, and prefers to withdraw to heal when hurt, leading to feeling resentful and taken for granted, and eventually becoming argumentative and feeling like a martyr. For a full description of how a Cancer man acts when in love please see our article on Cancer in love

How loyal are Cancer men?

Fiercely loyal and protective, he will do anything to ensure the happiness and security of his loved ones. Cancer men are amongst the most loyal IF they love their partner. If they don't love their partner then all bets are off (the same as for every other sign).

How to know if a Cancer man loves you?

Cancer is a naturally nurturing sign. If they care, then they tend to show it fairly obviously and readily. Hugs, questions about your day, troubles, worries, picking up on your moods etc are a good indicator. On the other side of things, withdrawing if offended or hurt is an equally good indicator. If they care about someone they become very easily offended by that person.

How to understand your Cancer man

Your Cancer will have his own unique personality traits. This article talks about sun signs, however there are many other factors. For example his moon sign determines his emotional personality which affects whether he is sensitive, romantic, loyal etc.

With his date, time and location of birth these other factors can be calculated for a complete picture of his personality. To explore this further please see my article on astrology compatibility readings.

Who are some famous Cancer men celebrities?

I have a list of the top 400 most famous Cancer celebrities and historical figures.

How to keep a Cancer man?

The common advice is to tell Cancer that you love him 20 times a day. While that certainly works, it misses the point that they want to be understood. One genuine and passionate "i love you" at the right time is worth 20 random ones.

More than anything Cancer compatibility hinges on a partner who can read and empathize with their moods. Some people are more gifted at this than others, but anyone can do it if they make the effort.

How to know if your Cancer man is your soulmate?

Relationships are complex things, comprising hundreds of individual elements. Sun signs are one of these, however a detailed analysis of everything is required to find all the strong and weak areas. Please see the article on astrology and soulmates for more information on how astrology can be used to determine if someone is your soulmate.

Cancer man long distance and online relationships

Online relationships and long distance relationships have unique challenges. One of these is that you get to see one side of someone very clearly: their personality. You don't however get to see anything about other factors such as sexual attraction. My compatibility reports address this by scoring all factors alongside each other so you can see the whole picture, with any strong or weak areas highlighted. To explore this further please see my article on online relationships.

Do Cancer men cheat?

Generally they don't. But, this is the type of generic question that often gets asked or answered whenever astrology is discussed. Individual experiences are then quoted back and forth as proof that Cancer men do or don't. Individuals get offended by general statements that don't apply to them, and everything goes downhill fast. The diagram below shows the problem here:

Astrology can predict someone's personality very accurately when the placement of all their planets is calculated. In that situation we can also predict their most likely behavior.

From just someone's sun sign however we can only predict some aspects of their personality and it's too much of a leap to try and predict behavior from just those. Astrology has fairly precise limits. This is an example of an area where sun signs are just too broad and clumsy to give an answer. A real compatibility reading is required to answer the question.

How to make a Cancer man fall in love with you?

This is a question which is very hard to give a general answer on, as no two Cancer men are totally identical. The key is understanding him and what he finds most attractive in a partner. Astrology can provide a wealth of information to enable this, however natal charts need to be prepared and studied to do so. Please see the article on seduction and astrology for more information on this.

Cancer man gifts

We have a dedicated section for Cancer man gifts with examples of the types of gifts which Cancer men enjoy within various categories from naughty to practical, including reader submitted suggestions.

Cancer man dating advice

No advice will ever apply to every Cancer man as they are all unique in various ways. I specialize in offering tailored advice based on your unique personality and his together, as one without the other isn't nearly as useful. My astrology readings solve real relationship problems for real people every day. For more information please see the article on relationship advice.

How compatible are you with your Cancer man?

This depends on far more than just your sun signs. The complete picture of your personality and his is determined by numerous planet placements at the time of birth. To fully understand someone or how compatible you are with them we need to calculate those other planet placements from their date of birth, and compare them to your own, and then interpret the results. This unlocks the real power of astrology, and gives much more useful and specific information - everything from how they view you and how to turn them on to the best way to avoid arguments.

I specialize in providing fast and accurate relationship readings delivered by email. These are designed to show exactly how compatible you are with a given partner and explore everything about your relationship, including a detailed analysis of your personality and your partner's personality.

Is this article conclusive?

No, this article is based only on sun signs. Those are a convenient and fast way to generalize, but far from conclusive at this broad level. There are many other planet placements which all affect someone's personality.

To get a complete picture of someone through astrology we need to take all those other planets and their interactions into account. To do this we need to create and interpret their unique natal chart. For information on what's involved in this and the opportunity to obtain one for yourself and your partner please see the compatibility readings page.

Does this article apply to gay Cancer men?

Yes, everything in this article applies whether you're straight, gay or bisexual. On this broad sun sign level astrology works the exact same way for everyone.