Virgo and Aquarius is often an easy friendship, but can be a harder match to make work as lovers. The low scores represent the initial compatibility of this love match. However, you are both strong willed enough to make this work, and if you succeed the scores would be much higher.
If you can both adapt to the others style this is a relationship which will improve steadily over time, and eventually rival any other match. The low scores represent a high initial challenge, and not a long term pessimistic view.
These scores show the averages for data collected from my clients over the past 20 years. It's important to note however that individual relationships vary enormously. This is a summarized picture, a real compatibility reading is needed to judge a real relationship. It's also worth noting that Soulmates can be found in any sun sign match, even those which are statistically likely to have low compatibility.
This article is in two halves, the first is written from the viewpoint of the Virgo man or Virgo woman, and the second is written from the viewpoint of the Aquarius man or Aquarius woman.
You're both very intellectual and excellent communicators, and you'll always have something to say and debate about. The mental side of this relationship is likely to be superb. So good, that in some ways it's really more suited to a friendship than a sexual relationship in the long term.
Your mental styles are very different, yet both very powerful and you will likely come to admire each others strengths in this area. You're highly detail orientated, often with a fantastic memory, while your partner is likely to be a think-tank of concepts and ideas. This can make a great partnership of your practicality and your partner's imagination.
You'll initially love your partners free and inspirational way of thinking, however as a lover you may start to wish they were a little more practical. You like routine whereas this partner almost certainly doesn't. You may start to become uncomfortable with how fond your Aquarius is of ignoring rules and tradition, perhaps suspecting they secretly just enjoy being contrary.
You like to create order out of chaos, whereas this is a partner who often likes to create a little chaos out of order! You could keep each other very busy in this respect!
This is a partner who is often unpredictable, unconventional, untraditional, perhaps quirky, and nearly always objective and somewhat intellectually detached or aloof.
This is also a partner who has little patience for social expectations, and is very open minded. Very little will offend or surprise them. Along these lines you may find their speech is sometimes shocking or offensive (but never dull!)
Neither of you want to rush into a commitment, and in this respect you're on the same page, both comfortable with giving the relationship time to develop first. You're somewhat detached emotionally, while Aquarius tends to be detached intellectually. This is another area where you 'agree' but for different reasons.
Money and financial security are likely to be far more important to you than they are to this partner, however they're likely to be a careful spender, and you'll overall agree on financial plans and goals.
Your Aquarius can be stubborn by your standards, and you'll probably find yourself being the person to bend first when disagreements arise.
There's likely to be very little spontaneity or sense of abandon in this match once the initial novelty wears off - unless you take steps to maintain it. Planning sex for next Tuesday at 7pm, and discussing how to make it better is certainly an efficient approach on paper, however in practice one or both of you may need to 'let go' more in order to get the most out of it.
You may initially find your Aquarius's carefree and bold style to be highly appealing, but in the absence of favorable planet placements elsewhere in your chart, any spontaneity or sense of recklessness may need conscious effort to maintain in the long term, if you want to continue to bring out each others erotic and passionate side. It's an easy problem to fix, as long as you know it's there.
It's important to note however that we're looking only at sun signs here. There are many other planets which can have an equal or greater effect on someone's personality. Makes sense, as ultimately everyone is of course unique. Generalizing too far based just on sun signs can therefore be misleading.
To fully understand someone or how compatible you are with them we need to calculate those other planet placements from their date of birth, and compare them to your own, and then interpret the results.
This unlocks the real power of astrology, and gives much more useful and specific information: everything from how they view you, how to turn them on, how to avoid arguments with them etc. If you would like to explore this further please see the compatibility readings page.
You may find this partner somewhat pessimistic at times, and perhaps overly obsessed with routine and tradition, often doing things for no better reason than because 'that's the way I've always done it'. Similarly they may find you highly chaotic and disorganized, and may not appreciate that's often quite deliberate. You could keep each other very busy in this respect!
You'll like this partners 'straight to the point' approach to life, while they'll appreciate your gift for understanding (and creating) exciting ideas. While you like to keep your mind clear of details, this is a partner with an often encyclopedic memory. In this respect you have both the big picture and the details covered.
You're both very intellectual and excellent communicators, and you'll always have something to say and debate about. The mental side of this relationship is likely to be superb.
Your mental styles are very different, yet both very powerful and you will likely come to admire each others strengths in this area. You enjoy concepts and ideas, while your partner is highly detail orientated, often with a fantastic memory. This can make a great partnership of your imagination coupled with your partners practicality.
Money probably won't be an issue here. This is a partner who can be fairly frugal, always preferring to gather long term security rather spend on temporary pleasures. While you aren't quite as self disciplined in this area you're not careless with money either. Your Virgo may be a lot more obsessive about balancing their check book. Ask nicely and they'll be happy to do yours too!
This is a fairly flexible partner, who is often comfortable with you taking the lead and having your way. In this respect they're an almost perfect partner for you on a day to day practical level, moping up all the details which you prefer not to clutter your mind with.
Neither of you want to rush into a commitment, and in this respect you're on the same page, both comfortable with giving the relationship time to develop first. You're somewhat detached intellectually, while your Virgo tends to be detached emotionally. This is another area where you 'agree' but for different reasons.
Planning sex for next Tuesday at 7pm, and discussing how to make it better is certainly an efficient approach on paper, however in practice one or both of you really needs to 'let go' in order to get the most out of it.
You're likely to be the more adventurous partner here, so lead the way! You're more likely to get bored before your partner does, and if that happens, mix it up and keep your partner guessing - you have the ability to do so, and can reverse this vicious circle. Corrupt your reserved Virgo a little!
If you're looking for ideas, on my relationship ebook reviews page I list the best 2 or 3 books most recommended for keeping things spicy in the bedroom. For example currently there's one called The ultimate guide to talking dirty, which includes a five step training program to build confidence and technique and plenty of examples, and another called "Sex around the house" which makes use of unusual household objects and locations.
So is this article conclusive? No! This article is based only on sun sign interaction. In order to provide a lot of people with information it's a convenient and fast way to generalize, but it's far from conclusive at this broad level. To get a complete picture we need to take all the other planets and their interactions into account for each of you, with a real astrology reading...
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For details of the most common pros and cons of relationships with each of the other signs I have a separate index of articles on Virgo compatibility and Aquarius compatibility
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